Giving gifts can be challenging. There are so many questions to address. Would the receiver like this versus this? Is this the right color? Am I sending the right message? Let’s face it, we live in a materially saturated world. We want ALLLL the things! We also want to give ALLLL the right things. That’s why I decided to create a series, Gifting by Love Language, based on the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I’m sure you are familiar with the 5 Love Languages, but just in case, visit the website. The 5 Love Languages are an amazing relationship resource, created to help individuals connect and interact with each other more effectively.
This is not your typical marriage counseling mantra. The 5 Love Languages can help you give better gifts, by showing you how to give a gift that speaks to the receiver in their “native tongue” if you will. Take me for example, my love language is Acts of Service. I love getting help. Anything that helps make my life easier and more efficient, is going to be extremely well received. On the other hand, I am not huge into receiving gifts (oh the irony!) although I deeply appreciate that someone was thinking of me. Do you know your love language? If not, take the test here. I encourage you to have your significant other take the test as well and share your results and chat it up. For my intro to Gifting by Love Language, I’ll just be giving short breakdowns of each love language, but I really encourage you to visit the website as well for more in depth information.
Words of Affirmation.
The Words of Affirmation love language is just what the name says. Words that affirm. Someone whose love language is the Words of Affirmation, will deeply appreciate compliments, encouragement, “I love yous” etc. If a Words person is having a bad day, a phone call to cheer them up and a loving text message will speak volumes vs a bunch a roses or candy. When giving a gift to a Words person, you want heartfelt messages that build them up. If Words are not your strong suit, spend some time writing down what you like about the receiver and go from there.
Physical Touch is deals with touch. No, physical touch isn’t just about sex. Touch people love hugs, holding hands, massages, essentially any skin to skin contact. What’s really fascinating about touch, is that it can be done without planning or thought. As you pass your significant other, a hand on the shoulder or back. Rubbing against them in the hall. For touch folks, long massages or a night of caressing cannot be beat.
As you can gather, this person likes getting gifts. Off hand, it may seem easy, but this may be the most difficult love language to gift. Why? Because the love language deals with gifts. You have to know what they like. What they want. What’s really important? My clue to you is the lean on equally important love languages. For example, the receiver also scored high for Acts of Service, hire a maid. There is a bit more work that goes into this, but don’t worry. I’ll address that in that blog post.
Some people just want to bask in your presence. Quiet nights in, dinner, long walks. Time people are best served by your presence. Things to considers are hobbies and things that brought you together.
Acts of Service.
This is totally my language here! I love things that help me. Nothing speaks louder to a service person than a helping hand.
I can’t wait to share this new perspective on the love languages. Don’t forget to take the test!