Gifting by Love Language: Words of Affirmation
Last week, I gave a really brief overview of the 5 Love Languages. I hope you were able to get familiar and take the test. This week, my focus is the Love Language: Words of Affirmation. According to Gary Chapman, Words of Affirmation addresses compliments, encouraging words and the lack of negative communications such as: nagging, put downs, complaints and the like. When thinking about gifting a words person, it may seem like a lost cause. After all, the most important thing to a words person is words. That’s actually not the case. The key to giving the right gift to a Words of Affirmation person, is to make the gift speak to them. I can relate to this struggle personally. My husband is most definitely a words person. He has another Love Language, but Words is definitely the most significant one to him. I often struggle with what to give. What I have come to realize is he doesn’t particular like getting gifts. We are the same in this way. Nothing really touches him more than when I tell him how proud I am of him, or when I thank him for doing something. In preparing for this series, I have learned a few helpful tricks of my own. So, here are three gifts for the Words of Affirmation Love Language.
Gift Idea #1: Custom Note Cards
As I said above, a words person is deeply touched by the words that are used towards them. Sometimes, a words person may need a pick me up, but their cheerleader is not present. Something like a “affirming jar” would be a priceless gift. Take a large jar or other container of your choosing, and write encourage statements. You can make it all your favorite things about them, little stories from your shared memories, their favorite quotes. Anything! You could even color code it so the receiver can find exactly what they need in the moment. (Blue- stories, Yellow- compliments etc)
I really love this idea for several reasons.
- You basically bottle your love up and give it to someone. How beautiful is that?
- It’s efficient. All you need is a jar, or box (whatever you want really) and paper. You can choose to customize this gift with color craft paper, or stickers. Let your imagination run wild. It will still be economic and heartfelt, a rare gift find these days.
- It will last forever. This gifting keeps giving. On any day your love, encouragement or wisdom is needed, it is only a flick of the wrist away.
Another twist on this would a journal or notebook. This option allows the receiver to carry in a bag or leave in the car, so if they are on the go, this would be a better option. It also allows for more personalization as far as drawing, coloring etc.
Gift Idea #2: Voice Notes
Much like the jar above, voice notes are a great way to “speak” to the receiver. The stand out with this gift, is the voice element. All the beautiful sentiments above said as clear as day. For a words person this is probably the pinnacle of word gifts. Want to make this super special? Sing a song that you both love or read something that is dear to the words person. Another really cool thing about this gift is the ease with which you can build it. Recording things daily as they come to mind, or create a cohesive theme.
Gift Idea #3: Custom Scrabble Art
The last gift idea is a custom scrabble letter art frame. I have seen a bunch of these on Pinterest and they are just really innovative and personal. You can get the letter tiles for as affordable as $3.00 for 100 tiles. You can use a standard frame, but I personally really adore shadow box frames. They add dimension and depth to the overall look and feel of the gift. Pick several words that positively describe the words person (funny, intelligent, kind). Create those words in an interlocking pattern, just as if you are playing scrabble. Another play on this really awesome words gift is to use words from your memories, then adorn the box with pictures and stickers from those memories.
I am just getting started, but this may be my favorite set of gifts to share. I actually plan on doing the scrabble gift for my love *wink* I’ll let you know how it goes. Here’s a running head start to giving better gifts, the love language way. Now go take the breath of your word person!.