Gifting by Love Language: Quality Time
Last time we chat, I helped you tackle the Love Language, Acts of Service. What’s really great about discussing Acts of Service last week, is the natural connection to Quality Time, our next Love Language. Quality Time is the intentional seeking of one on one time. Intentional conversations, eye contact, actually listening and paying attention are key players in exercising this Love Language. I say that Quality Time and Acts of Service are connected, because I view them as interchangeable in some aspects. You can serve someone with your intentional quality time and you give intentional time via a service.
So, the question on your mind… “How do you gift quality time?” I’m so glad you asked. As with any intangible gift, the challenge is how to make a gift connection. How do you give quality time??? The cornerstone of this love language is INTENTIONAL ATTENTION. A time person is going to seek out your attention. Active listening, engaging fully in a conversation by listening, asking questions etc. So, here are some ideas to mull over as you attempting gifting quality time.
Gift Idea #1: Date Night/Unplugged/offgrid | Day for You
The first gift I propose: an elevated twist on the typical night out. Carefully curate an agenda of your time person’s favorite activities. Avoid things like movies or dancing as you really don’t communicate while doing these things and they can be a distraction. Use your wisdom though. If you both tend to be chatty Cathys no matter what, these activities are perfectly fine. Leave cell phones on silent or opt to leave them in the car (check in frequently with sitters or dependents). Make it the best day ever *singing in my Spongebob voice*
Gift Idea #2: Intentional planning | custom clock
Because I need to give at least one tangible idea *wink*, a custom clock! Wait… I don’t mean specifically for telling time. I mean, take a clock and make it a fun twist on an agenda like above. Create time blocks with activities you enjoy together, or just to have a moment of quiet together. Parents, this is really a great tool for you. If one or both of your are time people, this clock will help you make time for each other at the end of the day.
Quality time is something often taken for granted. We passively “spend time together” but what this love language really requires is the intentional sit down. The focus of the mind. When you think about it, we all require that human interaction. We want to be seen, heard and understood. So, get creative and brainstorm ways you can give your time.